A Serious Question

[dudelovenext]

I know, I've been postwhoring for some strange reason. `^_^

I want people's answers and opinions about laziness.

It's extremely difficult for me to take the initiative anymore. It takes a lot of effort for me to "get up and go". I'm sure part of this is my physical health. But a lot of it is mental, too.

I don't want to be hepped up on caffeine 24/7. But I want to start being productive, y'know? I want to start learning how to play piano again. I want to read educational books for no reason other than to just learn. I want to stand up and say, "I don't have anything going on tonight. I think I'll go to downtown Seattle!"

Any thoughts?

Comments

[fearless-son.livejournal.com]

I need to find that out too.

[dudelovenext.livejournal.com]

Guess I'm not alone then. `^_^

[quetz.livejournal.com]

OK. What are you doing tonight?

[dudelovenext.livejournal.com]

Going down to Chris and Anne's. I gotta pick up the Hawaii check since it's due Sunday. Eep! `^_^

[quetz.livejournal.com]

Then you're off the hook. But you see my point? A lot of it is just deciding what you want.

[dudelovenext.livejournal.com]

Maybe I just need some more defined, shorter-term goals? Maybe that would help me focus on those far off goals...

[dudelovenext.livejournal.com]

*nods* I've never really been gung-ho about much in my life...a few times, perhaps. I guess I just want that feeling back.

[dudelovenext.livejournal.com]

I do have motivation...but I think the goals are so far away, that they're just in the back of my mind and I'm not really focusing on them.

Heh, yes, love would definitely motivate me. However, who knows when Cupid'll come a knockin'. `^_^

I'll be perfectly honest, I think the only other thing that would really motivate me would be...probably money and/or success.

It is starting to really bother me. I'm getting tired of being a slacker, and, let's face it, lately that's what I've been. I think Nintendo does have something like that set up...mmm...maybe I will give 'em a call...

True, I don't know any actual psychologists, so...LJ isn't the best place. `^_^ But I still like to hear what my friends have to say.

[kittykitsune.livejournal.com]

I guess one thing you need to look at is why are you lacking the drive and desire to "go". I know that, personally, my lack of drive comes from that fact that I don't think anyone likes me and that really... I'm just annoying. This makes it IMPOSSIBLE for me to have the desire to get up and go... because who's going to care if I attend an event or if I look a certain way... I don't think anyone really cares......

no I doubt that's your reasoning behind it, but it may help to find the issue as to why you're lacking the drive... are you too tired? too bored? not interested? lonely? finding the root of the problem can really help in moving forward.

[dudelovenext.livejournal.com]

Well...I guess there's nothing pushing me, though part of me feels that I don't need anyone or anything to push me.

Nah, that's not true. *hugs* :)

I just...*thinks* I guess the goals I'd have envisioned are so far off, it's hard to really see the path that would lead to them. So, I'm just kinda like, "Meh". Sure I'm lonely, but I grew up for the most part alone; it doesn't bother me that much. Probably lack of energy and boredom. I wonder how long one should notice a change in energy when they change their diet? I go a few days and don't really notice anything...of course, by that time I've fallen off the wagon again. `^_^

[kittykitsune.livejournal.com]

I get what you mean about the goals... but the thing is.. what are your goals? Possibly going to college or getting promoted? Are those goals really so far off or are you really afraid to go for them and that's what's holding you back.

A lot of goals may seem far off, but with a little more focus they become a lot easier to attain...

[dudelovenext.livejournal.com]

Honestly? I guess my only real goals are to find a partner and be successful, though...being successful is a pretty broad term.

[intrigued-bi-u.livejournal.com]

it used to be really easy for me to get up and go often only getting 3 hours of sleep. since I moved back home and gained some weight Im having a hard time. i feel listless all the time and now this heat i dont wanna do shit! im serious I gained 46 pounds since I been home ...I only lost 12 of it :(

[dudelovenext.livejournal.com]

Hm, maybe it's just all the weight I'm carrying around? Definitely a possibility...though I need to lose a lot of weight...

Wowzers, 46 pounds? Still, I need to lose a bit more than that. `^_^

[tak178.livejournal.com]

Life is an endless stream of decisions, my friend. You must learn to choose the right ones. Spontineity is one thing, but being comfortable to just pick up and go somewhere is something entirely different.

The question is...what do you really want to do with your life? What direction do you want to head? You have to make these decisions for yourself. Let that still small voice inside guide you.

~Dave

[dudelovenext.livejournal.com]

Heh, still deciding on those decisions. :)

Those are the important questions, aren't they? Which I don't yet have real answers for...

The small voice has been very quiet.

[seattleotaku.livejournal.com]

Probably as a memory-laden "kick my own butt into gear" mode, but I was just thinking earlier of something a relative used to tell me: "If you're not doing it, you don't want to. If you really wanted to, you'd do it." Sometimes it can be just about choosing which you really want, even if it's just a specific beyond the "I want to do something" conundrum. ^_^

[dudelovenext.livejournal.com]

Kind of. Though I refuse to believe that I'm just lazy in general and that I'd like nothing more to just sit around, watching movies, drinking, and playing games.

Just need to find...the motivation I guess...

[hencucco.livejournal.com]

You know, I bet I have the answer to your questions. Drop me a line on AIM.

[dudelovenext.livejournal.com]

I'll definitely be looking into that.